'GentleBirth comes in a variety of ways': First time Mums 60 hour birth story

I went into labour on Tuesday 16th Feb at 5.30am. Had everything set up at home and laboured at home all day. Contractions were 4 mins apart lasting for 45 seconds to a minute all day but I was managing. Headed into the hospital at around midnight that night and was so disappointed, I was only 1cm. The midwife did a sweep, without asking, and they checked liquor volumes and agreed that I could go home. Unfortunately the sweep seemed to really strengthen the contractions and I only lasted 2.5 hours at home. 

I couldn’t speak highly enough of the care we received in the CUMH. Everyone was so kind and caring and couldn’t do enough for us.

We went back into the hospital around 2.30 where I still hadn't progressed. Because I hadn't felt able to eat or drink much all day, I was severely dehydrated and was put on fluids. We were coming up on 24hours in labour so I also had pethidine. I was admitted that night, hopeful and confident that I'd have a baby by Wednesday!

I do think it’s important for people to know that Gentlebirth comes in a variety of ways!

Unfortunately the baba had other ideas! Spent all day Wednesday in the same situation, contractions 3 to 4 mins apart lasting a minute, no dilation but a very happy baby anytime they monitored! Had more pethidine throughout the day as well as walking the halls, bouncing on the ball and taking baths! No moving the baba! 

Thursday! 48 hours in by now! Two of the kindest midwives really fought my corner at this stage. Because I hadn't eaten or slept in two days, I was exhausted. I still hadn't progressed past 1cm so was told I couldn't have an epidural as I wasn't in established labour! These 2 midwives rang the labour ward and told them I couldn't do another day like this so they agreed to transfer me down. 
A Dr on her rounds came to me and told me my two options. First option was to go home! I was still on fluids and was exhausted so basically told her I'd stage a sit in rather than go home! Second option was for them to break my waters. Needless to say, we went for option 2!
They broke my waters and gave me an epidural which was absolutely heaven sent as all I needed at this stage was to rest and be pain free. 

Epidural was given at 9.30 and I was able to relax and doze for the day which helped me progress. By 3.30pm, I was 6cm and by 5.30pm, I was ready to push. Because it had all gone on so long there was meconium in the waters and my temp and heart rate went up which in turn made the baby's heart rate go up. A lovely Dr came in to help deliver which involved a vacuum and episiotomy and my gorgeous boy, Oliver Michael Cummins arrived at 6.28pm weighing 7lbs 13oz! 

Unfortunately due to him having a 60 hour labour..he needed to go to neo for 3 days but we're home now and settling in well! 

...at the end of the day, after 60 hours of labour, what Gentlebirth gave me was the sense of calm and togetherness to tell people what I needed. Which thankfully included the epidural!!!

I couldn't speak highly enough of the care we received in the CUMH. Everyone was so kind and caring and couldn't do enough for us. I used to think Gentlebirth meant having a natural birth and things going a certain way. Now I really understand that it gave me the strength and sense of calm to deal with whatever came my way. The one affirmation I never liked was 'I accept whatever path my birthing takes', because I was so determined to have my natural Domino scheme birth. However at the end of the day, after 60 hours of labour, what Gentlebirth gave me was the sense of calm and togetherness to tell people what I needed. Which thankfully included the epidural!!! Also when things were heading to an emergency situation at the end, it gave me the clarity to know that I either gathered my last bit of strength and pushed him out or they would section me! I hadn't put in 60 hours to be sectioned then!! 

We're doing well now and getting to know my little man! And I'd do it all again even after an epic 60 hours!! 

I used to think Gentlebirth meant having a natural birth and things going a certain way. Now I really understand that it gave me the strength and sense of calm to deal with whatever came my way.
The gorgeous Oliver

The gorgeous Oliver

 

I couldn't speak highly enough of the care we received in the CUMH. Everyone was so kind and caring and couldn't do enough for us. I used to think Gentlebirth meant having a natural birth and things going a certain way. Now I really understand that it gave me the strength and sense of calm to deal with whatever came my way. The one affirmation I never liked was 'I accept whatever path my birthing takes', because I was so determined to have my natural Domino scheme birth. However at the end of the day, after 60 hours of labour, what Gentlebirth gave me was the sense of calm and togetherness to tell people what I needed. Which thankfully included the epidural!!! Also when things were heading to an emergency situation at the end, it gave me the clarity to know that I either gathered my last bit of strength and pushed him out or they would section me! I hadn't put in 60 hours to be sectioned then!! 

We're doing well now and getting to know my little man! And I'd do it all again even after an epic 60 hours!! 

Thanks for all your emails and contact. I'll post my story on the GentleBirth page too because I do think it's important for people to know that GentleBirth comes in a variety of ways!